Sex – Urethral Sounding
Having a bleeding disorder doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy various activities or a fulfilling sex life. Have fun and bear in mind that there is nothing you can’t do. Although some activities do involve high risk and dangers to someone with a bleeding disorder and discretion is advised.
Cock-stuffing, or “sounding” as it is called in the S&M community, involves inserting smooth, long, and thin surgical steel rods called “sounds” (hence the name “sounding”) into a man’s urethra.
The two most commonly used “sounds” are the Van Buren, which has a J-shaped curve on the end, and the Dittle, which is straight. Other objects, such as thermometers, may do the trick, but metal sounds are recommended because they are easier to clean and have no chance of breaking when in use. While a glass thermometer may be readily available, the risk of breaking (and leaking harmful mercury) makes this a risky option.
Sounders use lots of lube, so the “sound” can easily slide in on its own (gentle guidance may be necessary; pushing or forcing can cause tearing of the fragile tissue). If you encounter a constriction in the urethra that the “sound” will not pass through (most likely scar tissue), do not try to drive it through. More lube and a narrower sound may be more safe and successful.
Saliva isn’t generally recommended as a lubricant because it dries quickly (as you may have discovered already). Also, sugars from the mouth can be found in saliva that may cause urinary tract infections (UTIs). Sugars also can be found in some types of lube, sometimes listed as glycerin in the list of ingredients. Ultimately, a water- or silicone-based, glycerin-free lube with a thin consistency will probably work best for “sounding.” Silicone-based lubes are longer lasting, but water-based lubes may have a thinner consistency. However, some people find silicone-based lubes to be a bit harder to clean up. Men find what works by experimenting.
People enjoy using “sounds” for the pleasurable sensations felt while being inserted. They are also popular in the S&M community as a form of power exchange. Some of the curved “sounds” make getting an erection extremely difficult. If a penis starts to become erect, the person inserting the sound must wait until the erection subsides before continuing. Often sounds are locked into place so that a submissive partner cannot get an erection.
The main risks with “sounding” include tearing or cutting the urethra and infection. Anything inserted into the urethra is to be cleaned to reduce the chance of infection. Some discomfort may be felt later if the sound has stretched the urethra. If that happens, people use smaller “sounds.” Some men also feel burning when urinating, due to irritation. If the feeling continues for an extended period of time, the urinary tract may have become infected. If this occurs, or if there is blood in the urine, the person needs to see a health care provider. For those who use sounds, being open and honest with the provider is vital, in order to discuss alternatives for avoiding infection if they plan to continue “sounding.”
Just because you “don’t do it often” doesn’t mean you needn’t do it safely each time. Leave the thermometers, with the risk of broken glass and mercury poisoning, behind and invest in a “steel” sound. They can be found at some adult toy stores or online.
Penis plugs and urethral sounds are popular tools for sexual experimentation, arousal and pleasure. Many men use them to enrich their sexual experience and reach new levels of sexual pleasure.
These toys can be used for masturbation, sex, role-playing, medical games, and in many other ways – the only limit is your imagination. To know how to use them properly, however, you need to understand what they do and what is the best way to start using them.
Penis Plugs and Sounds:
The first thing you need to understand is the difference between penis plugs and urethral sounds. They are both used for urethral play and they are both inserted into penis. Their function and the way they are used, however, are what makes the difference.
A penis plug is a toy (often considered body jewellery) that’s cam be inserted into urethra to achieve sexual arousal. A penis plug can make the penis more sensitive and responsive, it can make erections stronger and it can also intensify orgasm. Another reason to use a penis plug is to imitate the look of a Prince Albert piercing without being pierced for real.
There are many different designs of penis plugs. In its basic form, a penis plug is a smooth, metal plug made to be inserted into urethra. Other designs are made to heighten the arousal and to help keep the plug in place, so you can find textured penis plugs or penis plugs with a glans ring.
The ring keeps the plug in place safely and it also increases pleasure by making the penis harder and more sensitive to touch. Some penis rings are solid while others have a central hole so urine and sperm can be passed freely.
Most of the resources are aimed at men, but women can do this also.
Note: the urethra in men and women are different lengths and shapes! Knowing anatomy is helpful here).
Urethral sounds are used in medicine for dilating urethra during medical examination and tests. These tools can also be used to achieve sexual pleasure. Many people enjoy the feeling of their urethra being stretched and probed, so this is why urethral sounds are so popular with many men looking for more exciting sexual experiences.
Urethral sounds are usually sold in sets. The sounds in a set have different sizes (especially width, though many vary in length), so it’s possible to stat with the smallest ones and build your way from there. Many urethral sounds have a curve at the end made to stimulate the bladder.
Urethral sounds are typically longer and sometimes slimmer than the plugs. They can be inserted deep into the penis and reach the bladder. Many sounds have a special end made for stimulating urethra and bladder. Sounds are often used in medical role-play.
It’s important to choose the most appropriate penis plugs and sounds for a beginner’s level.
This is the best way to start using penis plugs and sounds. Proper design and fitting will ensure not only the best and safest experience but it will also help you get used to the feeling and it will help you decide if urethral play is something you enjoy.
Think About the Design
Penis plugs and sounds come in many different sizes (width and length vary greatly), as well as designs. This is particularly true for penis plugs, though there are different urethral sound designs you may wish to try.
The first thing you need to check is how well-crafted the product is. These toys have to be carefully designed to allow safe urethral play. Penis plugs and urethral sounds typically have curves, texture or even pointed tips (especially in the case of urethral sounds) but the design itself has to be suited for the male anatomy to allow the safe play. A penis plug and urethral sounds are designed well if they allow for smooth, safe insertion. Make sure that the insertion end of a penis plug is smooth and made of thick enough metal not to hurt the urethral walls at insertion.
When inspecting a design of a penis plug, make sure that it’s made in a way that ensures a good fit and that will keep the plug in place. It’s important that a plug is safely designed so it won’t go far into urethra. This is why a plug needs to be carefully designed. It needs to have a wider end that will prevent it to go too far into urethra. Some plugs use a disk or a ball to prevent the plug to be inserted too far, while others use special handles. The exact type of the “stopper” used is not so important but it’s vital that a plug has something on the other end that will prevent it to be inserted too far into urethra.
Another thing you need to consider is keeping the plug in place. It’s often difficult to keep a plug in place due to urethral muscles trying to push the plug out. As a beginner user, you will need a bit of practice to keep your penis plug in place. It’s also important to choose a plug with a narrow shoulder so it can get a good grip inside urethra and stay in place. Various types of glans rings are also used to keep the plug in place but these plugs are often more complex in design so they are not always suitable for first-time users.
There are several popular designs and types of urethral sounds (Hegar, Pratt, Van Buren, Rosebud, and more). For the best first-time experience, it’s important to choose a smooth urethral sound that is thin enough and easy to insert and remove.
The best urethral sounds for beginners are Hegar, rosebud and Dittle sounds.
Hegar sounds are S-shaped sounds. They have two different diameters on each end. These are smooth, gently curved sounds suitable even for beginners. This is a perfect sound type for those who wish to try this type of stimulation for the first time. Rosebud sounds are straight and they have a long, thin handle and a bulbous end. The bulbous end is made to stretch and stimulate urethral walls. They are easy to be inserted so they are suitable even for less experienced users.
Dittle sounds are straight, with a rounded tip and a flat end. They are suitable even for beginner’s who wish to try urethral sounding.
Choose some of these sounds for your first experience. Their smooth design and anatomic shape make them easy to insert and take out, so they are perfect for less experienced users.
As a general rule, beginners should use penis plugs and sounds with a tapered tip. This makes for the most comfortable insertion and it carefully stretches urethra as the plug or a sound slides in. There are many other designs on the market, but it’s best to stick to the most basic ones until you are used to the sensation and prepared to take more extreme styles.
Choosing the Size
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For your first time and the beginner’s level, smooth, solid plugs and urethral sounds are the best choice. The best beginner’s penis plug is small in size, solid and smooth. It may not be worn for a long period of time, but this is ok: you need to get used of the feeling of being stretched and filled up in this way. A smooth penis plug is the most comfortable so it won’t hurt your urethral walls and it will help you get used to the feeling easily.
Another thing you need to consider is the width of the plug. There are special starter plugs specially made for first time users and those who prefer only light urethral play. Generally speaking, a smooth, thinner plug (not thicker than 0.25- 0.3 inches) is the best for beginner users. When it comes to length, it’s best to use a shorter plug for your first time. Choose a plug that is not larger than 1.5-2 inches. This is a perfect size for a novice. Don’t go for the longer plugs until you are completely comfortable with the smaller ones. Later, when you get used to the feeling of wearing a penis plug you can move to thicker plugs with textures, central hole and other additions.
When it comes to urethral sounds, you need to understand that they are longer and suitable for deeper urethral stimulation. Therefore, it’s important to go slowly and to insert as much or as little as you feel comfortable. When choosing a size, make sure to go with the thinnest sounds available and to build from there. Choose a thin sound or pick the thinnest sound in a kit to start with.
How to Use Plugs and Sounds
Penis plugs and urethral sounds generally have a simple and easy to use shape, so you don’t have to think much about how to use them. However, it’s very important to go slowly and to allows your urethra to stretch naturally while the toy slides in.
For the best experience, it’s important to ensure safety (see tips below), to use clean, sanitized toys and to take your time. Don’t forget to clean both your toys and your body before you try to insert a plug or a sound. Ask your partner to sanitize hands or even use surgical gloves to insert the plug or a sound into your urethra.
Also, don’t forget about a lubricant. You will need a good, sterile lube for this. Place a bit of the lube at the penis opening and you may begin the insertion.
For the easiest experience, it’s best for your penis to be soft and not erect. Hold your penis with one hand and slowly begin to insert the plug or a sound. This is also what you should ask your partner to do, if you want another person to do the insertion.
During insertion, try to be as relaxed as possible and don’t fight it. Your urethral muscles will naturally work against it and they will try to push the plug or the sound out, or block it. Try to resist this urge and relax your muscles as much as possible. It’s best to simply let the weight of the toy pull it inside the urethra. Gravity can also help here, so it’s best to keep the penis vertically during insertion.
Once the plug or a sounds is inside, make sure you feel comfortable. This is when you should “test it” by stimulating your penis. You may also let your partner do it. Try with gentle strokes and see how it feels. Some men simply enjoy the feeling of the toy sliding in and out of the penis. Others like to keep the plug or a sound inside while masturbating. Once you feel comfortable enough you may try your first orgasm with a penis plug or a sound.
After this first experience, you can experiment further to see what you like and what kind of urethral stimulation you prefer. After a while, you can switch to more complex and extreme penis plugs and sounds to achieve even more intense feelings.
For the end, here are some safety tips all beginner users should follow to ensure the best and safest experience. Penis plugs and urethral sounds are great tools that can enrich your sexual play, but you need to know how to keep it safe.
- Always use specially designed penis plugs and urethral sounds. This is crucial for your safety. Never insert random household objects into urethra! Penis plus and sounds are carefully made to be safe and to be used in this way, which isn’t true for random objects you may find. These object may be unsanitary or they can tear your urethra and break inside your penis, which will lead to further complications. For this reason, it’s important to use only objects specially made for urethral use.
- For your first time, it’s best to use the simplest, thinnest plugs and urethral sounds, preferably with a rounded, tapered tip. These are the best choice for beginners and they help you get used to the sensations.
- Always sterilize your penis plugs and urethral sounds. This is one of the reasons why metal plugs and sounds work the best – they are easy to be sanitized in boiling water. Leave them in boiling water for about 5 minutes, and they are ready to be used. You may also wish to wipe them with alcohol. Also, make sure that your body and hands are clean before you play with plugs and sounds.
- Use a quality, sterile lubricant for inserting plugs and urethral sounds. It’s important that a lubricant is sterile and to use the right amount that will make the experience comfortable. Never use saliva as a lubricant.
- Go slowly. This can’t be stressed enough. Your penis needs to adjust to the new sensation of being stretched. Your urethra needs to be stretched easily and with care. Never rush this experience.
- Never force the plug or a sound down your penis; it will only bring more harm than good. It’s best to let the toy slide naturally deeper inside your urethra.
- Being relaxed during your first urethral play is crucial for the positive experience. This is something new and exciting, so try not to worry. Always take your time to get used to urethral stretching and all the new stimulation you will experience.
- If you use urethral sounds with a curve, wait for your erection to go away before you try to take it out.
- You should always take the solid penis plug out before ejaculation, to prevent retrograde ejaculation.
There can be an increased risk of bleeding or injury if you take part in this activity because of your bleeding disorder.
However, you could have treatment before, if not, and you do get an injury / bleed, treat first if you can, then seek medical advice immediately.
Source: Go Ask Alice / The Chain Gang / Open Minded Health.