The Fundamentals of Sex
From attraction to action, sexual behavior takes many forms. At least for humans, this most basic of activities is anything but basic. As the pioneering sex researcher Alfred Kinsey put it, the only universal in human sexuality is variability itself.
Human interest in sex is not a matter left to chance but more a built-in imperative; survival of the species depends on it. Although sexual desire may wax and wane over the life cycle, depending on life demands and relationship satisfaction, the decks are stacked in sex’s favor, as a passport to bonding, to intimacy, to pleasure, and even to human growth and healing.
People normally engage in sexual activity for any number of reasons—to feel alive, to maintain a vital aspect of human functioning, to feel desirable and attractive, to achieve closeness, to please a partner they love. Bodies and interests change over the course of time, and the complexities of physiology and psychology mean that most people experience a sexual problem at some point in their lives. Although sex can be one of the most difficult topics for partners to discuss, it’s one that also stands to draw couples closer together.
The moral and political implications of sex vary greatly from culture to culture, and even within cultures and over time; still, there is agreement on one certainty: It’s why we’re alive today and what future generations depend on.
Sorry, size queens, but it’s time for a rude awakening…
Let’s be real… size matters.
There will always be size queens–men whose obsessions with large members matter more than the person it’s attached to, and who won’t entertain the idea of anything shorter than a footlong sandwich even when they themselves are closer to a six-inch–but for many of us, size only matters in that it often dictates the roles we think we (or our hook-ups) fall into.